When you ask yourself, Should I get back together with my ex?, the answer will depend on the nature of your relationship and the circumstances surrounding your break up. Obviously these are unique to you and your ex.
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Whether or not you should get back together with your ex also depends on how much time has passed since your break up. If your break up was very recent and emotions are still running high, it is too early to make a sound decision. You need to know if you want to get back together with your ex before deciding if it is a good idea.
If some time has passed and you have decided that you do want your ex back, read on. These guidelines will help you answer the Big Question: Should I get back together with my ex, or not? In other words, whether your relationship deserves another chance.
Should I get back with my ex? – the answer may be YES, if:
- You were the one that ended the relationship, and regret it.
- You enjoyed a fulfilling, loving relationship with your ex up until your break up.
- External pressures such as financial problems, family issues, illness, and so on, have played a large role in your break up.
- Your break up was out-of-the-blue, triggered by an unusual event or a build up of stress that took one or both of you to boiling point.
- You can identify specific problems that led to your break up and believe they can be solved, or forgiven. (Get advice on giving a cheating ex a second chance)
- You have solid reasons to believe your ex wants to get back together too.
Should I get back with my ex? – the answer may be NO, if:
- They were the one that ended the relationship.
- Your relationship has always been difficult.
- Your relationship problems stem from personality and behaviour traits that remain unchanged and are unlikely to change.
- You have broken up and got back together with your ex at least once already.
- You have a history of remaining in unhealthy relationships at all costs.
- You are afraid of life without a partner – any partner.
- Your ex clearly considers the relationship over, for good.
The answer is definitely NO if:
- Your relationship has featured mental and/or physical abuse. You owe it to yourself to stay away long enough to get back a true sense of what’s “love” and what’s not.
- There are problems with alcohol and drug abuse. Don’t kid yourself that “love” will make them disappear. Most addicts must reach rock bottom before seeking professional help. Only then can love make a difference - maybe. Until then, it won’t.
Friends and family can provide a valuable outsider’s view of whether you should let go and move on, or make an effort to get your ex back. However, the ultimate decision about whether or not you should get back with your ex must be made by you.
If the answer to the question, should I get back with my ex? is “No”, get help to get over the break up, and move on. If the answer is “Yes”, get help to get back together with your ex and make it happen.
Copyright 2008 Caroline Mackenzie
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