If you have had an unwanted break up you may well be wondering, how do I get my ex to fall back in love with me? My advice? Get your ex back with dignity.
A couple years ago a friend of mine went through a nasty break up. She was devastated. And it showed.
She was desperate to get back together with her ex boyfriend but she seemed to be equally determined to show everyone, including her ex, just how much she was suffering.
Everyone, her ex too, felt terribly sorry for her. But she didn’t get her ex boyfriend back.
Instead of her ex falling back in love with her, he went out of his way to tell her that it was definitely over and that she should move on.
Tears, sobbing jags, slumped shoulders and a long, pain etched face. Does this describe you after breaking up with your partner? After a break up it’s tempting to wear your emotions on your sleeve. You want the world, and especially your ex, to know the hurt and misery you feel. In other words you are needy and pitiful. If you want to have a real chance of getting an ex back – to get your ex to fall back in love with you – this not the way to do it. You have to dump this mind set and slap a smile onto your face.
If you want to get your ex back it is crucially important to control your emotions, at least in public. To understand why this is so important think back to when you and your ex first met. Think about what you were doing and how you were acting. Think about the kind of person you were when he was first attracted to you. Chances are very good that you were not walking around with red, teary eyes and the attitude of an emotional victim.
To get your ex to fall back in love with you, you need to be the person he fell in love with in the first place, not an emotional wreck that, if he saw you now for the first time, he would pass off as a very high maintenance person and never have any interest in right from the start.
During your time together he has, of course, seen other sides of your personality, both good and bad. But during your first meeting, the first week or month of your budding relationship he saw a part of you that was powerfully attractive. To get him back, be that person. Be the happy, in control, loving person he fell in love with.
If you are asking yourself How do I get my ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend to love me again, if you want the love you had to be rekindled, you need to delve deep for the hidden strength inside of you and, in public at least, put a smile on your face and let the world know that in spite of it all you are far from shattered, you are whole and complete.
