After a break up, when all you can think about is getting your ex girlfriend back, knowing where to start – the first steps to take – is difficult. Logical thinking is pretty much pushed aside by the pain, confusion and sometimes sheer panic of losing your girlfriend, forever.
To get you on track, here are the first steps to get your girlfriend back:
Step One: Don’t Panic!
One of the critical first steps to get your ex girlfriend back is to switch out of panic mode. Take a deep breath and assure yourself of two things.
First, believe it really is possible to get your ex girlfriend back. This is not pep talk but a fact. Whatever you have done to cause the break up, you can win her back. This is something that TW (“T Dub”) Jackson (author of The Magic of Making Up) and other experts consistently ram home – “there are no impossible situations.”
Secondly, assure yourself you’ve got time. Whatever is going on in your ex girlfriend’s head, it is unfolding more slowly than whatever is going on in yours. This has nothing to do with her intellect, just the fact that women think differently from men.
Step Two: Be Desirable
It’s early days but an essential step to getting your ex girlfriend back is to make her think positively about you. Or at the very least, less negatively! You may not have a plan for getting her back yet but from day one you need to be someone she will want to get back with. You must:
- Get a grip. Women find a range of emotions – strong yet sensitive types – very attractive. But extremes – blubbering wrecks or stalkers – are a complete turn off. You may think it shows you love her but she’ll be thinking, “Loser.”
- Stand back and give your ex girlfriend space. This difficult but essential part of getting an ex back is especially important when it comes to ex girlfriends with their more complex thought processes. Don’t worry that she’ll think you don’t care – she knows you better than that. And she’ll know how hard it is, earning you respect and big Brownie points for your control and consideration.
- Be strong have and look your best. Your ex girlfriend may not see you but her friends will and you can believe they’ll be reporting every detail. Give them positive things to report back – things she can respect, admire… and miss.
Step Three: Get Thinking
Getting your ex girlfriend back means getting to grips with what went wrong. So, the first steps to get your girlfriend back must include thinking about your faults and mistakes, and how you can prove you deserve a second chance. Think too about your good points that may have taken a back seat before your break up. If there’s one thing women want, it’s to feel understood, so be honest and try to see things from her perspective.
Step Four: Stay Positive, Get Good Advice
Remember, it IS possible to get your girlfriend back. It’s also possible to ruin your chances. Soak up all the articles, tips and advice you can on how to get your ex girlfriend back. You can also check out downloadable books and guides – complete strategies covering all the steps to getting your ex girlfriend back.
