After a break up it’s natural to want to know what your ex girlfriend is thinking – about you, your relationship and the future. Does she regret the break up or has she decided it was the right thing? Is she already making the most of being single again and open to meeting someone new?
In other words, what exactly are your chances of getting your ex girlfriend back?
It’s understandable that you want to know – and want to know now – but not very realistic. It assumes there is something definite to know – that your ex girlfriend has made up her mind one way or the other about the possibility of getting back together.
It is unlikely she has, even if it has been weeks or months since your break up. This is because women reach decisions quite differently from men. In a nutshell, they take their time – and lots of it – allowing their true feelings to emerge, and “trying on” various decisions to see how comfortably they fit. The more important a decision is, the longer it takes.
So what does this mean for you and your ex girlfriend?
The bottom line is, even if your chances are currently slim to zero, it is possible that what your girlfriend feels today will change in your favor as she gradually works through her thoughts and feelings, and the reality of being apart sinks in.
The down side is, it will be some time before you see any signs your ex wants you back too, assuming she ultimately decides in your favour. The good news is, you don’t have to live in emotional limbo land, waiting and wondering.
You can believe right now that you have every chance of getting her back.
This is because you have time on your side – time to influence her thoughts and feelings and do what it takes to make sure she decides she wants you back.
Many of these things – the critical first steps to getting your ex girlfriend back – will not involve seeing or talking to your ex. But they will make a vital difference by continually influencing her thoughts and feelings in your favor.
For instance, you will need to give your ex time and space for her thoughts and feelings. (You will read this a lot but with ex girlfriends and their nitty-gritty decision making process it is especially important.)
You will need to start thinking seriously about what went wrong and how to prove you deserve a second chance, and watch how you look and behave so that everything she hears about you is good. And of course, get all the essential tips to get your ex back you can, available in articles or books that provide complete strategies for getting an ex back.
Most of all, remain 100% positive about your chances of getting your ex girlfriend back. As TW (“T Dub”) Jackson, author of The Magic of Making Up says, “there are no impossible situations.”
So, believe what you have read here – that you can get your ex girlfriend back – and focus on how to make it happen.
