We regularly review the kind of advice our visitors are looking for and a top query for women is, “How to make your ex boyfriend want you back.” It’s a strongly-worded query suggesting the ideal answer will be a quick fix “magic spell” guaranteed to win your ex-boyfriend back!
If so, you’ll be disappointed. The honest answer is, there are no magic solutions. You can get your ex boyfriend back but it will take honest soul-searching, an effective step-by-step plan and a willingness to follow it through. In other words, more time and effort than you might like!
If you feel like clicking away to see if someone else has an easy way to make your ex boyfriend want you back (and many will say they do), we understand. You want your ex back, and you want him back now! But the sooner you accept it takes a solid plan of action (see our Action Plan or check out the Best Books for Getting Your Ex Back), the sooner you will be taking steps to get your ex back that actually work.
One of those steps is to understand why your boyfriend decided to break up with you. There are many reasons why men break up with women. Whatever the “official” reasons, many say the real reason was a “controlling girlfriend” – a girlfriend who tried to change him, interfered with his friendships, nagged and manipulated. You get the idea.
By coincidence (or is it?) we notice that women use the “make” word far more than men when looking for advice about their ex.
So, why is this? Why are countless ex girlfriends looking for ways to “make” their ex-boyfriend want them back, ways to “make” them call or text, ways to “make” their ex miss them?
In some cases the “make” word is probably just that – a word. But what accounts for the fact that women use it more than guys? Could it be that many ex-girlfriends are still trying to “make” their ex do things – even though it’s the real reason they were dumped in the first place? If so, it’s a policy that’s going to backfire, big time.
The lesson is, if there’s the slightest chance that your ex boyfriend broke up with you because you were too controlling in some (or many!) ways, tread carefully. Your ex knows you – and your tricks! – and will be on high alert for any signs he’s being manipulated. You need a fresh approach to win him back.
If this doesn’t apply to you – if you reached this article without using the make word, or simply used it in desperation – the advice still holds.
In all cases, men admire and respond more positively to straight-dealing, honest behavior. With some clear and honest thinking and a complete step-by-step guide you really can get your ex back – a strategy far more likely to “make” him want you back than any amount of trickery!
