Working out whether your ex still loves you is a minefield of uncertainty – of potential hurt and disappointment and embarrassment. Perhaps your ex does still love you but they’re doing their best to hide it – there are no signs at all. Perhaps they don’t, even though all the signs say they do.

The articles below aim to clear the confusion so you can be more certain of what your ex really feels – whether your ex still loves you and wants to get back together, or not.

Signs Your Ex Wants You Back
Signs your ex wants you back that are positive, reliable signs that your ex wants to get back together.

Don’t Fool Yourself Your Ex Wants You Back
Make sure you do not fool yourself into thinking your ex wants you back when they do not. Some signs are misleading.

How to Tell if Your Ex Wants You Back
How to tell if your ex wants you back with important advice on how to stay realistic when looking for signs your ex still loves you.

Is My Ex Stringing Me Along?
Find out if your ex is just stringing you along or really does still care for you.

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But before you learn how to tell if your ex wants you back, a few words of advice:

Firstly, remember that there is no way to tell 100% for sure that your ex wants you back until your ex actually says so. The best that any advice can do is make you 99% sure that they do. Be positive but bear this in mind to protect yourself from hurt and possible humiliation.

Secondly, don’t expect to be able to tell right away if your ex wants you back. It may be weeks or even months before your ex realizes that they do – before you see any signs that they do. In the meantime, don’t be disappointed that you can’t tell if they want you back – be patient.

Thirdly, if your ex is acting cold and distant, don’t assume the worst. After a break up many people guard or disguise their real emotions, afraid of more hurt or rejection. Most of all, don’t respond by being cold and distant too. Your ex will never tell you they want you back if it seems like you hate them. In fact, if you are cold, distant, angry and defensive they are more likely to decide that they don’t.

So, how can you tell if your ex wants you back? There are positive sign your ex wants you back – signs you can rely on – as well as signs that may fool you. Once again, be patient. Getting back with an ex takes time. You may want to bookmark these articles and refer to them as things progress.

An original article on how to tell if they want you back, exclusive to this site

If there’s one thing for sure, it’s confusing. Does your ex want you back or not?

Here are some of the positive signs that your ex wants you back. The more that apply, the more certain you can be that your ex wants to get back together.

Positive signs your ex wants you back:

• Your ex has kept the lines of communication open and reminds you that they are open.
• Your ex has initiated contact on more than one occasion.
• They have contacted you for no particular reason. (Signs your ex wants and needs to maintain contact.)
• They have contacted you about things that have happened to them and how they felt about them. (This is one of the strongest signs an ex wants you back. It’s a sign that you’re still the person they feel understands them best.)
• They have called to ask your advice. (Signs your ex needs to share as if you were still a team – partners – and a good sign that they still respect you.)
• Your ex always seems to be where you are. (To a point this may be inevitable but if it’s happening too often to be a coincidence, it’s a good sign it means something more!)
• They are nervous and flustered when you meet. However…
• They are not anxious to get away and seem to look for excuses to prolong your meeting.
• Your ex has told you about or invited you to situations that bring you together.
• Your ex has not formed any new relationships and, just in case you don’t get it…
• Your ex has made it clear (themselves or through friends) that they are not interested in new relationships.
• They (or their friends) have been sounding you (or your friends) out on whether you would be interested in getting back together. (One of the clearest signs your ex wants you back but they want to check out how you feel before making a move.)
• There are signs your ex is trying to impress you, with a new look, new achievements, etc.
• They have mentioned efforts they have made or are making to be a better person. (This is a good sign your ex regrets the break up and is worried you’ve been thinking about their faults – and deciding you’re better off without them! If you were the one who decided to break up and regret it, it’s a good sign that you can still get back together.)
• Your ex has changed something about themselves that you always hated. )This says loud and clear that they want to be liked – that they now want you back.)

Hopefully you have checked “yes” to many of these positive signs that your ex wants you back. If not and your break up was recent, don’t lose hope. It may be too early to tell. You can bookmark this page and revisit it later, when there may be more positive signs your ex wants you back.

“It really is possible to get your ex back… even if your situation seems hopeless!” T.W. (T Dub) Jackson, author of The Magic of Making Up – the complete step-by-step strategy to get an ex back.

Remember, whether you see any signs your ex wants you back will depend largely on you – your actions and behavior. If you do the right things (and avoid the wrong things) from this point on, you will.

So, don’t linger on tenterhooks waiting for signs. Find out what the “right things” are – what exactly you need to do to make your ex want you back.

First, be confident that it is possible to get your ex back. Then:

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In other words take action to make sure you see signs your ex wants you back!

Positive Signs Your Ex Wants You Back – an original article by Caroline Mackenzie
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You need to know the difference – which signs you can believe in, and which are unreliable.

Good Signs or Wishful Thinking?

The first step is to be aware that many so-called “signs” your ex wants you back may be signs of wishful thinking more than anything else.

After all, you want your ex back!

But in this state of mind it is easy to see things the way you want to – as signs your ex wants to get back together – when they are not.

In reality they can be explained in a number of ways – and not necessarily the way you would like. If you get it wrong you set yourself up for hurt and humiliation, pursuing an ex who does not want to get back together after all.

Signs That May Be Misleading

To avoid being misled and getting hurt, here are some signs that are unreliable and best taken with a healthy pinch of salt.

An important thing to remember is that if any of these apply, it not necessarily a sign that your ex does not want you back, only that they are not a reliable basis for thinking that they do. For instance, if you find that many of the sure-fire positive signs also apply, then there is a good chance that they really do want you back.

If, however, the following signs are the only signs you’ve seen, then be careful! There are things you can do to improve your chances with your ex (covered in the best ex back plans) but in the meantime it’s unwise to try to get back together based on these signs alone.

• Your ex has been talking about your break up and how they regret it. What is it that your ex regrets? The hurt? The broken dreams? Your ex may regret many things but it does not mean they regret the decision to break up. They may feel as strongly as ever that it was the right decision – but often, the right thing to do is not an easy thing to do. They may merely want to adjust to the “new reality”, and talking about your break up helps.

• They care about how you are coping with the break up: This is not a sign that your ex wants you back. It is a sign that they are a caring person and/or have guilt issues. Perhaps the best news they hope to hear is that you are happy and happily settled in a relationship – with someone else.
• Your ex has contacted you about practical matters: They have a solid purpose for calling – mail, outstanding bills, important messages. Don’t read more into it than there is. Life has to go on and your ex can’t put it on hold because you have an over-active imagination.
• Their friends/your friends see signs your ex wants you back: Maybe they are being kind, saying what they know you want to hear. Maybe they are having fun at your expense, deliberately giving you false hopes. Or maybe they are helping your ex to keep their options open – for sex, not a relationship. (See, Is my ex stringing me along?)
• You have been sexually intimate: Wanting sex and wanting a relationship are two very different things. Is it possible you are being used? Did they call the next day and ask you to get back together? Are they cursing themselves? Bottom line is, this is not a sign your ex loves you or wants to get back together, even if they said so at the time.

When looking for signs your ex wants you back it isn’t easy to put logic and common sense ahead of emotions. It’s not easy at the best of times. However, do your best. You will then have only reliable signs your ex wants you back and can move ahead with confidence.

An original article on Misleading Signs by Caroline Mackenzie, exclusive to this site!
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Maybe you suspect your ex is stringing you along because one minute they’re all over you, saying they love you, maybe even having sex with you. The next, they’re cold and distant, not answering texts or calls.

You may suspect your ex is stringing you along because they want your advice about everything, a shoulder to cry on, someone they can “really talk to,” and again, sometimes sex. It seems like they really can’t live without you – you’re important and special – until your ex says they just want to be friends.

Either way, mixed messages from an ex are hurtful and confusing, particularly when an ex is now with someone else. What do they want?

• It could be that your ex is indeed stringing you along as a back up option for sex or a relationship.
• They may have no idea of how confusing and misleading their behavior is. They may genuinely want to be “just friends” not realizing how hard it is for you – you want to be much more than friends.
• Perhaps your ex wants to be more than friends too – they just don’t know it yet, or don’t know how to say it.

Whether your ex is guilty or innocent of deliberately stringing you along, you need to know where you stand and draw a line to protect yourself from being hurt.

So how can you tell if your ex is stringing you along, or if they really do have feelings for you. If there there is a chance they want to get back together too?

One thing you can do is weigh up the evidence.

Look at their behavior. Are there positive sure-fire signs your ex wants you back or are you fooling yourself?

Another thing you can do is stop guessing and arrange to have a talk with your ex. When you actually meet, tell them that you are confused about how they feel, what they want and what the future holds. Explain that you need to know because you need to move on. To do this you need to know exactly what the nature of your relationship is.

Their response will give you some clues to their intentions.

• If your ex is stringing you along: There is a good chance they will try to persuade you that they can’t help themselves. That they have feelings for you that they have tried to put aside but can’t – that they are confused too. This is an all-too-neat and conveniently flattering – “you’re irresistible” – excuse for the hot-cold behavior of an ex who is stringing you along. The flattery is the giveaway (be on the alert for charming smiles and dewy eyes) and their “confusion” buys them time – it keeps you on the hook. Do not accept this. Insist your ex makes a decision about how they feel and that in the meantime, that they respect clear boundaries between you.
• If your ex is not stringing you along – their behaviour has been misinterpreted: They will be genuinely surprised and apologetic about how they have made you feel. They will happy (anxious, even) to explain exactly what their feelings for you are so that the two of you can move ahead with no misunderstandings. You must be prepared for the fact that their feelings may not be what you want them to be. That they have no intention of getting back together – that your ex just wants to be friends.
• Finally, if your ex does still care for you: If they have already decided they want to get back together, your talk will result in a solid step in that direction. If your ex still cares but remains genuinely uncertain and confused about getting back together, they will seem confused. They will be hesitant and wary, not wanting to commit themselves one way or the other – neither overly flattering nor outright telling you there’s no hope. As soon as you sense this genuine confusion, ease off. Suggest a casual meeting in a month or so and in the meantime, give your ex time and space to discover what they really feel about life without you.

In summary, do not live in limbo land wondering, is my ex stringing me along? You may be setting yourself up to get hurt – or missing an opportunity to get back together with your ex sooner rather than later. Until you get some answers, treat yourself with respect. If nothing else, draw a line when it comes to sex with your ex.