Our key tips to get your ex back are a good starting place – essential advice on how to get an ex back to help both men and women. But there’s no doubt about it: men and women are different.

With this in mind, we have a section especially for men – Get Your Girlfriend Back.

Articles in this section – listed on the right – include advice on:

How to Know if Your Ex Girlfriend Wants You Back
Where to find tips to help you know if your ex girlfriend wants you back.

Chances of Getting Your Girlfriend Back
Why you have every chance to get your ex girlfriend back.

4 First Steps to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back
Take a deep breath and take the first steps to getting her back.

Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back With Romance: Part One
Romantic ways of getting your ex girlfriend back, the first of two parts.

Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back With Romance: Part Two
Romantic ways to get your ex girlfriend back. The second of two parts.

These include positive signs your ex wants you back as well as misleading signs that may not be as good as they seem.

Be sure to check them both out.

After all, half the reason you want to know if your girlfriend wants you back too is to protect yourself from hurt and humiliation, right?

But before you get reading, a few words of advice…

Keep an Open Mind, Stay Positive

Don’t get too hung up on whether there are, or are not, any encouraging signs your girlfriend wants you back.

• If you find there are really good signs she wants you back, that’s great.
• If not, it does not mean that your chances of getting her back are zero.

It may simply be too early to tell, or the way she feels today may be quite different tomorrow.

Be Patient

The fact is, there’s a very good chance that even your ex girlfriend doesn’t know if she wants you back. And it could be a long while before she does.

Women make decisions very differently from men. They dig deep into their emotions, consider every angle and possibility, and generally test drive various decisions to see which feels best. All this takes time, and it also explains why women have a reputation for changing their minds.

The good news for you is that nil or negative signals at this stage may turn positive later. (And it’s your job to make sure that they do.)

Don’t Hold Back – Make Sure Your Girlfriend Wants You Back!

It’s understandable that you want to be sure your girlfriend wants you back before you make a move. You’ve got an ego to protect.

But, in the meantime, your inaction is not exactly going to help swing things in your favor.

As all the best ex back ebooks will show you, it’s totally possible to make rejection a non-issue by making sure your girlfriend wants you back.

There are many things you can do to feed “positive data” into her decision making process.

So, the question is not so much, “how to know if your ex girlfriend wants you back,” but, “what can I do to make sure she wants me back!”

An original article by Caroline Mackenzie, exclusive to this site!
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Does she regret the break up or does she feel it was the right thing to do? Or is she feeling comfortable that ending your relationship was the right thing to do?

Although it’s understandable that you want to know what your girlfriend is thinking and if there’s any chance at all of getting back together, it’s not very realistic.

It assumes there is something definite to know – that your ex girlfriend has made up her mind one way or the other about your chances of getting back together.

Even if it has been weeks or months since your break up, it is unlikely her feelings are as black and white as you think they are.

This is because women reach decisions and move on in life quite differently from men. In a nutshell, they take their time – and lots of it – tuning into their heart and “trying on” various decisions to see how comfortably they fit. And the the more important a decision is – such as a decision about the future – the longer this takes.

So what about your chances of getting her back?

The fact that women think differently – “experimentally” and more slowly – is good news. It means that even if your chances of getting your girlfriend back seem to be slim to zero, this isn’t written in stone.

There’s every chance that your girlfriend’s thoughts about the possibility of getting back together will change as she gradually works through her feelings – and as the reality of being apart sinks in.

The down side is that it will probably be some time before you see any actual signs your ex wants you back too – assuming she ultimately decides in your favour.

The good news is, you don’t have to live in emotional limbo land, waiting and wondering if she will.

You can believe right now that you have every chance of getting her back.

This is because you have time on your side. Time to do what it takes to influence her thoughts and feelings in your favor and make sure your girlfriend wants you back.

Taking Action to Maximize Your Chances

You can start swing things in your favor even if you have no contact at all with your ex girlfriend.

For instance, one of the first steps to getting her back is giving her space. You may be sick and tired of hearing how important this is this but it’s a make-or-break deal when it comes to ex girlfriends. Women resent feeling rushed or pressured during their nitty-gritty decision making process.

This is why all the first steps to getting a girlfriend back are designed to influence her thoughts from a distance.

A side benefit of this long-distance approach is that it’s risk free in terms of rejection! Many guys are so afraid of rejection that they don’t do anything at all to boost their chances. With these long-distance strategies you can get things moving in the right direction, risk free. On the other hand, move in too close too soon and she’ll most likely reject you “just because”.

Of course the whole process is easier and more likely to succeed when you have a complete step-by-step plan to follow. These range from plans especially for guys, such as Michael Webb’s Getting Her Back for Good, as well as topsellers such as The Magic Making Up which include advice especially for men. You’ll find reviews of these plans (and more) in our best ex back ebooks section.

Most of all, remain 100% positive about your chances of getting your ex girlfriend back. As TW (“T Dub”) Jackson, author of The Magic of Making Up says, “there are no impossible situations.”

So, feel confident that you can get your ex girlfriend back – and focus on how to make it happen!

Chances of Getting Your Girlfriend Back by Caroline Mackenzie, exclusive to this site!
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On the one hand you want to do something to get her back but on the other, you just can’t think straight enough to figure out what that something should be! Then too, there’s the danger of doing the wrong thing and making things worse.

The good news is that there are four simple, effective and risk-free ways to move forward in the right direction.

So without further ado here are the first steps to get your girlfriend back:

Step One: Relax!

One of the critical first steps to get your ex girlfriend back is to switch out of panic mode. Take a deep breath and assure yourself of two things:

• First, it really is possible to get your ex girlfriend back. This is not “pep talk” but a fact. Whatever you have done to cause the break up, you can win her back. This is something that TW (“T Dub”) Jackson (author of The Magic of Making Up) and other experts consistently ram home – “there are no impossible situations.”
• Secondly, you’ve got time. Whatever is going on in your ex girlfriend’s head, it is unfolding more slowly than whatever is going on in yours. This has nothing to do with her intellect, just the fact that women think differently from men. After all, 99.9% of men are driven crazy by how long it takes their girlfriend to make a “simple decision” – before changing their minds! Bear this in mind and it’s easy to reassure yourself that she’s not going to reach a firm decision about you and your break up any time soon!

Step Two: Be Desirable to Your Girlfriend

The overall name of the game in these early days is to make your girlfriend think positively about you without invading her space. Or at the very least, less negatively! You may not have an actual plan for getting her back yet but from day one you need to be someone she will want to get back with. To up your desirability score you need to do four things:

• Get a grip. Women find a range of emotions in a man very attractive. For instance, George Clooney and Johnny Depp types  who are strong but not ashamed to be soft, too. But extremes – blubbering wrecks or stalkers – are a complete turn off. You may think that this kind of behavior and looking miserable day in day out shows you love her but she’ll be thinking, “Loser.”
• Stand back and give your ex girlfriend space. This difficult but essential part of getting an ex back is especially important with ex girlfriends because of their more complex thought processes. Don’t worry that keeping your distance will make her think you don’t care – she knows you better than that. How does this make you more desirable? She’ll know how hard it is for you to hold back – something that will earn you respect and bank you big Brownie points.
• Look your best. Your ex girlfriend may not see you but her friends will, and you can believe they’ll be reporting back every detail of how you look and how you seem. Give them positive things to report back – things she can respect, admire, and miss. Looking your best is also another way to show that you’re maintaining some kind of control, rather than falling to pieces.
• Behave your best. Again, you want your girlfriend to hear positive things about you. These will not include flirting with or even dating other women, or saying things you don;t really mean, such as how great it is to be single again. Behavior like this may seem like a great idea – to make her jealous – but it will backfire, big time.

Step Three: Get Thinking

Getting your ex girlfriend back means getting to grips with what went wrong. There is no way that your girlfriend will give you a second chance unless she believes that you understand what you need to do differently. So, at the same time as you’re giving her space get thinking about faults and mistakes you’ve made, so that you can prove you deserve a second chance. If there’s one thing women want, it’s to feel understood, so be honest and try to see things from her perspective.

Think too about your good points. Many of these may have taken a back seat recently, including things that attracted her to you in the first place. Think about what changed. In what ways did you become a different person?

Step Four: Stay Positive, Get Good Advice

Remember, it IS possible to get your girlfriend back and positive thinking is a big asset to making it happen. But it’s also possible to ruin your chances by doing that one small thing wrong that leads to disaster!

To steer clear of mistakes, browse around and soak up all the tips and advice you can on how to get your ex girlfriend back.

You can also check out the best books (ebooks) to get an ex back – complete strategies covering all the steps to getting your ex girlfriend back. (They all have “no questions” 60-day money-back guarantees, so you can them lout risk-free.)

In summary, the overall purpose of these first steps is to make the right impression on your girlfriend without being intrusive. To slowly but surely get her thinking about you in a way that puts you on the right path to getting her back. And to do this, you need to think carefully about yourself and how you can be the man she loved, the man she wants – and the man she wants back in her life!

Steps to Get Your Girlfriend Back – an article by Caroline Mackenzie, exclusive to this site!
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Women LOVE romance, there’s no doubt about it! So assuming that there is still a spark between you, it’s your job to build it up into a roaring fire.

Now this is important!

• Don’t do any of these things if you and your ex girlfriend have had a bad break up and she has made it clear that she does not want you around. In this case you need to give your girlfriend her space (here’s why), and doing any of these things could make you look like a stalker.
• These tips are only appropriate if you and your ex are still talking, still close, still friends.

Without further ado, here is Part I of “10 Ways of Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back With Romance”. (Part II is here)

1. Name a Star for Your Girlfriend

There are several agencies that allow you to reach out to the Milky Way and name a star. You’ll be given a beautiful parchment certificate and a star chart with the location of the star now named for your ex girlfriend.

If possible present her with the Certificate and Star Chart in person. If that isn’t practical mail them to her at home or work.

2. Send Her a Special Thank You Letter

Write a thank you letter listing all the things she’s done for you. Something like,

• Thank you for being the best kisser that ever existed
• Thank you for making me feel like the luckiest man alive
• Thank you for helping me to get through the final exams. I couldn’t have done it without you
• Thank you for helping me when I was sick with the flu…

You get the idea. Now end the letter by saying something like, “How about giving me a chance to pay you back for all you’ve done for me?

If you’ve got fairly decent handwriting (or even if you haven’t!) think about making this a handwritten letter. Actual letters are not so common these days, and show you’ve really made an effort, which is pretty romantic in itself. Of course if your writing’s not so good, use the computer but show you’ve spent time on it by adding some special graphics.

3. Make a Video for Your Ex

Sit down in front of a camera and make a video of yourself apologizing for everything you might have done to cause the break up. Be sincere but keep it light and smile.

The idea here is to show how much you care without being a sniveling wreck – an embarrassment to her and yourself! Post the video on YouTube and then send her an email with the URL.

4. Wow Her With a Balloon Bouquet Surprise

Have a bunch of helium balloons printed with a special message for your ex girlfriend. Something funny is best, like, “It Makes Glen Smile…”, then a happy face and “…. Just Thinking About Michelle”.

Tie the balloon bouquet to a post or fence or on her car – somewhere your ex is sure to see it. This works best if you know a bit about your ex girlfriend’s schedule.

5. Send Your Ex Girlfriend a Top Ten List

Write out a funny Top Ten list of reasons that you and your ex should get back together, the top ten things that make her special – whatever you like. Keep it light. Make it read something like,

Top 10 Reasons Michelle Should Get Back Together With Glen:

Reason 10: Glen’s friends will think he’s an idiot if he loses a girl as wonderful as Michelle.

Reason 9: When he’s with Michelle, even Glen is good looking.

Reason 8: …

Once you have your list, text or email it to your ex girlfriend – one per day.

Now remember, don’t do any of these things if there is a lot of anger surrounding the break up of you and your ex. You do not want to come off as a stalker, or simply not respecting her need for some space at this time.

So there you go – five romantic ideas.

But I’m not done yet! For five more romantic ideas, continue on to Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back with Romance – Part II.

If you’d like way more romantic ideas, Michael Webb’s “Getting Her Back for Good” ebook plan comes with a free bonus: “101 Romantic Ideas”.

For more details, read our Getting Her Back Review or skip to his website (opens in a new window).

As promised here are five more romantic tips to use in your quest to win her back.

Please remember, only use these tips if you and your ex girlfriend are still quite close and on speaking terms. If you are not close and not speaking trying to romance her will only make the situation worse. (Often, an ex needs space – not giving it will harm your chances of getting them back.)

And so, on with five more romantic ways of getting your girlfriend back.

6. Send Her a Message In a Bottle

Write a lovely romantic letter to your ex girlfriend on parchment paper. Roll it up like a scroll and tie it with a ribbon. Get a clear plastic bottle, slip your letter inside, tape her address on the bottle and mail it to her. Yup, the USPS will take it.

7. Get Extravagant With Flowers

Send your ex a really luscious bouquet. I’m not talking about a dozen roses here, that’s a real “been there done that” sort of thing anyway. I’m talking about a big, beautiful, bouquet, one that sets you back at least a hundred dollars.

Send it to her at her work if possible so all her friends will see it. If she works in a place where that isn’t practical, then send it to her at home at a time when you’re sure she’ll be there.

Don’t get all gushy with the card. Keep your message simple. Something like “Thinking of You” will do just fine.

8. Take Her Out For a Not-So-Casual Lunch

Ask your ex out for a casual lunch. Why not? You’re still friends right? Have a basket packed with an extravagant picnic lunch, complete with chilled wine and caviar, ready in the trunk of your car. Take her to the most beautiful and romantic spot available to you.

9. Sweep Her Off Her Feet and Into the Clouds

This one can be a bit difficult to arrange, but it’s a great way of getting your ex girlfriend back. Take her for a surprise hot air balloon ride.

Hot air balloons usually launch early in the morning so you will have to ask your ex girlfriend out for breakfast. Make sure there is a bottle of chilled champagne ready at the end of the flight. Very romantic if you can pull it off.

10. Write Her a Poem

Poetry is as romantic as it gets. Write her a long loving poem that talks about all her wonderful qualities. Can’t write poetry? Do a search for love poems, find one you like and write it again in your own words line by line. Make sure you are thinking of your ex girlfriend’s likes, dislikes and qualities while you write. Once you have the rhythm going it’s pretty easy to do.

Remember not to get over sentimental or mushy and absolutely do not beg. Be fun! Make her laugh. That’s the way to get your ex back.

Don’t forget, these tips will only have a chance of working if you and your ex are still friends. If she is very angry with you, if she has made it clear that she doesn’t want to talk to you, then don’t push it. I’m not saying the situation is hopeless – you have every chance of getting your girlfriend back – but the time is not right for fun and romance.

On the other hand, if you and your ex girlfriend are still friends – if you talk on the phone, text each other, confide in each other, if there is still a spark between you – these 10 romantic ways of getting your ex girlfriend back may be just what you need to rebuild the fire between you.

If you’d like way more romantic ideas, Michael Webb’s “Getting Her Back for Good” includes “101 Romantic Ideas”.

For more details, read our Review or skip to his website (opens in a new window).