Guys. Can’t live with ‘em. Can’t tie ‘em to a post in the backyard.
Well actually you can tie them in the yard but they sure complain about it, I know mine did.
I’ve been in very good shape in regard to the man in my life for about three years now. But I traveled a long and rocky road before I got to where I am now.
For a very long time I couldn’t meet a guy that I even wanted to have coffee with twice, let alone start playing house.
It seemed like every guy I met was either:
- Utterly boring
- Completely self obsessed
- Physically unable to stop staring at my chest
I tell a lie. Sometimes there were combinations of the three.
Very occasionally, and completely by accident, I would meet someone I found really attractive and interesting. When that happened the outcome was inevitable. The relationship would go exactly no where. A few dates over a few weeks maybe, and that was it. End of story.
I told myself it didn’t matter, that I was perfectly happy alone, but I wasn’t perfectly happy. I was getting really depressed.
In fact I got so bummed I ended up going to see a therapist. I didn’t go to see her about “man problems” specifically but, inevitably I guess, the conversation turned in that direction. After a lot of sessions and a lot of talk I came to realize why I had so many problems with men.
Guess What? It Was Me. I Was The Problem
Without even knowing I was doing it I was making a serious effort to attract exactly the wrong kind of guys. And I was darn good at it, too.
If I did manage to accidentally meet someone with real potential I’d find a way to drive him out of my life - fast. Again, without even knowing I was doing it.
When my therapist was finally able to make me see just how weird and self-sabotaging my behavior was I was really amazed, and embarrassed. She said I had no reason to feel embarrassed because my behavior was very common among women. Who knew?
So, does any of this sound familiar to you? I wouldn’t be surprised if it does.
If meeting the right guy and keeping the right guy is a problem for you like it was for me, and if you don’t have a great medical plan or an extra few grand lying about to spend on therapy, then you really should have good close look at Mirabelle Summers’ badly misnamed Get a Guy Guide.
I say misnamed because the title Get a Guy Guide makes it sound like it’s for those girls out there that just want a man, any man, and that is not what the book is about at all.
Change Your Life Without a Therapist
Get a Guy Guide starts out with helping you to find and rid yourself of your own inner devils. Those little beasties that have you sabotaging your life without you ever being aware that you’re doing it. The ones that have attracting all the wrong men into your life.
In fact this part of the book isn’t about men at all. It’s about you. It’s about letting go of those nasty and untrue beliefs you have about yourself that are stopping you from having the life and love that you really want and really deserve.
It isn't easy to let go of this stuff. Women, much more so then men, seem to get self-confidence killing lies pounded into their heads from an early age and from all directions. All you have to do is look critically at ads on TV or in magazines and you’ll see what I mean. If we aren’t perfect, we’re worthless. Nothing in between.
Mirabelle’s book helps you rid yourself of all the unwholesome, damaging beliefs you have with a series of exercises. This is very powerful stuff. The exercises will help you become much more self-fulfilled. And that is very good because not needing a man in your life is just about the best way there is to get the RIGHT man in your life.
Attracting the Right Men is About How You Think
After showing you how to dump those false subconscious beliefs about yourself that you have, Mirabelle gets into the whole concept of “attraction”.
The thing you have to understand is that attracting the right guys into your life is much more about how you think then how you look. We all know how to attract a raft of creeps and cretins, a little cleavage or a way short skirt will do that.
But the idea is not to attract just any men that happen to be hanging around the 7/11. The idea is to attract the right men. Men that will make you happy. Men that have the potential to become true partners in your life. To do that you have to change the way you think, not the way you look.
So to get you on track and to start changing the way you think Mirabelle again uses a series of exercises. Don’t start thinking this isn’t a bunch of hard work, it isn’t. The exercises are really a lot of fun and it’s amazing how quickly you start to strip away old, unhealthy beliefs and start seeing yourself, men and how you relate to men in a whole new light. And you will start to attract the right sort of men into your life.
Build a Strong, Happy and Fulfilling Relationship
So at this point you’ve gotten rid of a lot of nasty, self-limiting beliefs and you are attracting men into your life that make you happy. You have even attracted a guy that you believe could well be the “the guy”.
If this was me about four years ago I would now steadfastly and with great determination go about the business of making a mess of the whole thing. I would find some way to drive this guy right out of my life, no matter how much effort it took. Maybe you know the feeling.
But with Mirabelle’s help you won’t do this. Because the next part of the Get a Guy Guide is all about building a happy, lasting, committed relationship with your guy. She tells some wonderful secrets here. Things I didn’t know before I read the book, things I’m now using to make my relationship even better and stronger.
Men and Problems Go Hand in Hand
Now this is all good and grand but you know and I know that all relationships have problems. I mean, we’re dealing with men here, there just will be problems. It’s a death and taxes kind of a guarantee.
But Mirabelle covers this too in what I guess you could call the “troubleshooting” section of Get a Guy Guide.
She shows you how you can stop problems from arising in the first place, and how you can limit their effect when they do come up.
She talks about cheating and how to prevent it and she shows you the right way to have a fight with your guy so you both feel pretty darn good about it when it’s over. Very cool.
More Help on Specific Subjects
I’ve rattled on here a lot longer than I intended. Mirabelle’s book is so darn good I keep thinking of more things I want to tell you about. But I’m nearly done. I just want to mention the cool bonuses that come with it. I have to mention these because they’re just, well, really darn good. And they all come free with Get a Guy Guide.
How Commitment Works for Men is the first one. Have you ever wondered just what guys are thinking when the word “commitment” fills the room like a white whale? You’ll find out when you read this because Mirabelle asked a whole bunch of guys, more than 400 of them, just what commitment means to them. Well, I know I had it all wrong.
The next one is called Goodbye, Shy. Now shyness is not something I’ve ever had a problem with. I’d need one called Shut Up, Big Mouth. But I know lots of women who are tortured by shyness. Extreme shyness can be crippling. This is how to get rid of it. But don’t go too far and get like me.
This next one is my favorite. It’s called How to Control Your Emotions Around Men. And boy could I have used this one a few years ago. When I was with someone I found attractive I’d immediately get nervous. Then I’d start to gush and babble. I could not rein in my emotions. It was so bad I’d convince myself that he was about to walk away while twirling his index finger around his temple in the well known “she’s nuts” gesture. So instead of having to witness that I’d usually get up and leave first. Yea, I could have used this book a few years ago. Maybe you can use it now.
We’re not done yet. The next bonus is called Five Mistakes Not to Make After a Breakup. Splitting up with someone you care about can make any of us do crazy things. This little gem shows you which mistakes to avoid so you can move on with your life, with him or without him.
The last bonus is an MP3 called Dating Innovations but I think it should be called Dating Problems Solved by Amy and Mirabelle. This audio is an interview style format where Mirabelle and Amy Waterman, author of Second Chance, solve every problem you likely ever had when doing dating.
Yes ladies, it is the complete package. I wish, oh how I wish, Get a Guy Guide would have been available four years ago.
So if any of the problems and dilemmas I’ve talked about here have you nodding your head and thinking “yea, I know what that’s like” then I urge you to have a good long look at Mirabelle’s Get a Guy Guide. I am positive it will not only help you to find the right guy for you but it’ll also help you to build a great relationship with him and keep that relationship strong.
But remember, if one day you’re in a bit of a mood and feel the need to tie your new guy to a post in the backyard just to get him out your hair for a while, it’s pretty much guaranteed that he’ll complain about it.
Go here to check out Get a Guy Guide for yourself. It’ll be worth your time.
Thanks for reading. Best of luck to you!
