The Clean Slate Method - A “Magic” Way to Say Sorry to Your Ex

To get your ex back, at some point you must say sorry to your ex – apologize to your ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend for whatever led them to break up with you. Ideally, your apology will work magic – it will wipe the slate clean and get you a second chance with your ex.

But saying sorry to an ex for relationship-busting faults or mistakes is not as simple as saying sorry for spilling coffee on their favourite sweater. A poor apology could ruin your chances of getting back together with your ex.

This is a critical reality that T.W. (”T Dub”) Jackson addresses head on with his Clean Slate Method, part of his bestselling system to get an ex back, The Magic of Making Up.

T Dub’s seven-page Clean Slate Method is a technique – a formula – to make sure you get it right when you say sorry to your ex.

It shows you exactly how to craft an effective apology. Or as he says himself, “turn back time and wipe the slate clean.”

Like many of the most useful things in life, the Clean Slate technique is not complicated or difficult to follow. Simply grasp the concept and commit the simple formula to memory.

T Dub provides realistic examples throughout, of how not to apologize (common but fatal mistakes) as well examples of the Clean Slate technique in action.

“There are no impossible situations… you can get your ex back!” T.W. Jackson, author of The Magic of Making Up.

Whatever you did wrong, you need to get your apology right and the Clean Slate technique shows you how. If you have cheated, used together with one other technique in the Magic of Making Up it will get your ex to forgive you in the shortest possible time.

Although the Clean Slate Method is not available separately, you will hardly lose by having access to T Dub’s entire system.

The Magic of Making Up contains realistic, sometimes controversial but effective techniques to meet all the challenges of getting an ex back, step by step. (See our Magic Review for more details).

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Excuses Will Not Win Your Ex Back After Cheating

If you have cheated and want to win your ex back, don’t even think about making any excuses for cheating. If you have already thought of a way to explain – to make your ex understand and (hopefully) forgive you – forget it. Any excuse for cheating, however good it seems to you, will most likely ruin your chances of getting your ex back.

There is no excuse for cheating. You have probably heard this many times and it’s easy to dismiss as angry ranting that doesn’t match up to reality. But the fact is, it’s true. Your ex knows it and, deep down, you probably know it too – cheating is inexcusable.

For instance, you can explain the chain of events that led up to your cheating – the temptations, emotions, etc. – but however persuasive these events were no one forced your hand. At some point you decided to cheat, even though you knew it was wrong.

Of course many a cheating ex will give a kind of “temporary insanity” plea saying they lost their sense of right and wrong because they were drunk or high. Even in a court of law, let alone face-to-face with your ex, intoxication is not an excuse for cheating.

Drink and drugs certainly make people less inhibited – less shy, less fearful and so on – but they do not wipe out a person’s sense of right and wrong, or force people to do things they don’t want to do. Remember, your ex has most likely been intoxicated themselves at some time, and knows this.

Another classic excuse for cheating is that it didn’t mean anything. It may well be true but it is likely to seriously provoke your ex. The obvious response is, if it meant nothing, why did you do it? Why did you shatter everything your ex believed in – believed about you and your relationship – for nothing?

The bottom line is, all excuses for cheating are likely to anger your ex, and backfire.

Excuses are by definition an attempt to justify something in order to get forgiveness. This is fine when it comes to explaining why you were late for work but there are no valid excuses for cheating. Any attempt to justify cheating not only insults your ex’s intelligence and common sense, it hints that you have tried to justify cheating to yourself – that you are sorry, sort of. What’s more, an excuse paints a picture of circumstances that could easily repeat themselves, giving your ex no reason to believe that you won’t cheat again.

The truth is, you had an opportunity and you decided to take it. Drunk or sober, you knew that what you were doing was wrong and decided to act first and think later. Now you are in the thinking phase - without your ex - and deeply regret it. You probably hate yourself and wish you could turn back time, are desperate to get your ex back but afraid you never will.

You can get your ex back after cheating but you must understand that excuses are not going to win your ex back. The key to forgiveness is how you feel about what you have done.

Need to say sorry to your ex … after Cheating?

Get the extra help you need to get your ex to forgive you - read about the Clean Slate Method

A formula for success when you apologize to your ex.

To forgive you, your ex needs to believe that you are genuinely and 100% sorry for what you have done. They cannot believe this if you make excuses suggesting that cheating was not entirely your fault. You must be completely honest (to yourself as well as your ex) and admit the truth – that there are no excuses. You made an inexcusable mistake and take full responsibility for the terrible hurt you have caused your ex, and are truly suffering for it.

While excuses lack credibility, everyone, your ex included, understands it is possible to make a mistake and how terrible it feels to suffer the consequences of our own stupidity. The more your ex believes that you blame yourself 100%, the more they will be able to believe that you are suffering, truly remorseful – and unlikely to cheat again.

So, a critical part of how to get your ex back after cheating is not to make excuses. Focus on forming an honest, emotion-based apology that explains to your ex how you feel about what you have done. Think too about how your ex feels. The more your ex believes that you are truly and 100% sorry for cheating, the more likely they are to forgive you – for making the mistake of your life.

The best books to win an ex back (complete strategies) include in-depth advice on exactly how and when to apologize, and all other critical steps to win your ex back. For instance, the Magic of Making Up (read our review) includes a Clean Slate formula that can be used with one other technique to get forgiveness after cheating in the shortest possible time.

How to Get Your Ex Back After You Cheated

If you want to know how to get your ex back after you have cheated it is a good sign that you probably deserve a second chance. Serial cheats and other selfish manipulative types don’t need any help. They’ve had plenty of practice talking and charming their way out of tricky situations.

For those of you who do need help, knowing how to get an ex back is one thing. Knowing how to get your ex back after you cheated is another.

Some of the key strategies for getting an ex back, whatever the reason for a break up, are especially important after cheating. Others should be avoided altogether – they will make your situation worse.

Here are the critical do’s and don’ts of how to get an ex back after you have cheated. Keep them in mind when reading advice aimed at all comers, to stay on the right track to getting your ex back.

1. Accept it may take a long time to get your ex back
Do the right things and you can get your ex back after cheating but be prepared for it to take some time. You face a greater challenge than people who have broken up for more common reasons, such as an argument that got out of control.

2. Keep your distance
It is essential to give an ex space after breaking up. It is absolutely vital after cheating. However desperate you are to communicate, resist. For some time you will be the last person your ex wants any contact with. Respect this. Your ex knows how you feel and needs longer than usual to figure out how they feel.

3. Accept your punishment
Your ex has been deeply hurt (to say the least) and will want to hurt you back. The best way they know how is to make you feel that there is no chance you will ever get them back (even if there is). They may flirt with others, look better than ever. However they choose to punish you, avoid knee jerk reactions. Understand that your ex needs to make you suffer – it’s part of their healing process.

4. Be honest about how you feel
Part of the usual advice on how to get an ex back is, control your emotions. Sometimes it’s even a good idea to keep them guessing about your true feelings. If you have cheated, this is a dangerous strategy. It is important that your ex knows how you really feel. Don’t overdo it but don’t be tempted to act cool like losing your ex is no big deal. If asked, be honest about how much you regret cheating on your ex and want them back. Word gets around…

Need to say sorry to your ex … for Cheating? You face a bigger challenge than most to get your ex to forgive you.

Get the extra help you need with the Clean Slate Method
A formula for success when you apologize to your ex… even after you have cheated.

5. Understand what your ex feels
After you have cheated it is not enough to apologize for what you have done. Learn what it really feels like to be cheated on. Your ex will want evidence that you fully understand the impact of your cheating - what you have put them through. Your apology will mean little without it.

6. Behave yourself
To get your ex back after cheating you must be squeaky clean and play safe. No flirting, no one-night stands on the rebound. Risky but often recommended tactics like using jealousy to get your ex back are a big no-no. It must be obvious to everyone (spies included) that you are interested in one person only – your ex. Your self-control, even when you have opportunities to misbehave, will help convince your ex that you are unlikely to cheat again – absolutely critical to get them back. If you really can’t behave or want to go wild and forget your problems for a night, do it somewhere your ex isn’t likely to find out about it.

7. Be persistent
It’s pretty much guaranteed that your ex will prolong the break up long after they have decided (and perhaps hinted) that they are willing to at least think about getting back together. This is partly to prolong your punishment but it’s also a critical commitment test. Your persistence is the only reliable measure your ex has of how sorry you are and how much you want them back. Make sure you pass.

8. Do not make excuses for cheating
When you have contact with your ex don’t even think about making an excuse for cheating, however persuasive you think it is. An excuse will not earn forgiveness and will seriously provoke your ex. It implies a hope that they will understand and accept what you have done. They won’t. The key to forgiveness is not an excuse – it’s remorse.

9. Be romantic
Although a decent period of no contact with your ex is essential, at some point (but no earlier than a month or two after your break up) the time may be right for a romantic gesture or two. Do not overdo it. The purpose is simply to let your ex know that they are uppermost in your thoughts - that you love and miss them - with no explanations or expectations attached. Let the romance of the gesture – the flowers, poem, etc. – speak for itself.

10. Don’t despair
Remind yourself that the key to how to get your ex back after you have cheated is persistence. While there may seem to be no change – no encouraging signs at all – the longer you hang in there, the better your chances are becoming.

Finally, consider a step-by-step plan
Books on how to get your ex back - complete strategies - are particularly recommended if you have cheated. Not only do they provide detailed step-by-step guidance that will keep you on track – you can’t afford to make mistakes – the best books provide actual timelines too. Knowing exactly what you should be doing when can help you stay the course. And with a structured approach to getting your ex back, the end seems not only achievable but nearer in sight.

Can I Get My Ex Back After Cheating?

If you cheated and want your ex back, the big question is, Can I get my ex back after cheating? Can I somehow convince my ex to forgive me and give me a second chance?

The short answer is yes, you can - it is possible to get your ex back after cheating.

Although cheating is one of the worst “relationship crimes” many couples survive and do get back together after cheating. What’s more, most of us know of cases, personally or in the media, where a cheating ex did not deserve a second chance (let alone a third or fourth) but got one all the same.

Yep, even serial cheats or first-time cheats with few redeeming qualities (most likely serial cheats in the making) and little in the way of true regret somehow manage to get their ex back. Not that that’s a good thing. But for you, it is.

Do You Know How To Apologize?

Often when we apologize for something we only make things worse.

It's the way we say we're sorry that escalates the situation

There is a way to say you're sorry that will wipe the slate clean and allow you and your ex to really talk without the past ruining the present.

Learn more about How to Say You're Sorry, or go to The Magic of Making Up website to read about The Clean Slate Method

What this indicates is that if you are genuinely deserving of a second chance (and let’s assume you are!), you have a good chance of getting one. Certainly you deserve and are more likely to win a fair hearing at least – a big step towards getting your ex back after cheating.

So what makes you deserving? Well for one thing you have all the right feelings – a deep sense of loss, pain, self-hate and regret. These will show through and give credibility to what you say to your ex - a vital edge in getting them back.

For another, despite making the mistake of your life by cheating, you are a worthwhile person with qualities that your ex has loved. The big picture of who you are is good.

Of course getting an ex back after you have cheated won’t be a walk in the park. It will take longer than it would if you had broken up for more run-of-the-mill reasons. And how to get an ex back and how to get an ex back after cheating are not the same thing.

You can get your ex back after cheating but some of the usual “do’s and don’ts” are especially important if you have cheated and others must be avoided - you can’t afford to put a foot wrong. You can avoid mistakes and stay on track with the help of books (ebooks) on how to get an ex back - complete step-by-step strategies - always a good idea but highly recommended for anyone who has cheated.

On the positive side, one part’s easier than usual - understanding what went wrong. Many people have trouble getting their ex back because it’s not at all clear what they really did wrong.

Despite how you feel, please do not lose hope or do anything wild and crazy to punish yourself, or to make it seem like you don’t care. Be honest about how you feel and take full responsibility. Excuses will not win your ex back but everyone (including your ex) understands it is possible to make a mistake – the final reason why can you feel hopeful that you can get your ex back after cheating.

The next step is to make it happen. To get started, learn the essential do’s and don’ts of how to get an ex back after cheating and check out books to get your ex back for complete strategies covering all the steps to succeed in getting your ex back, even after cheating.

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Getting Back With Your Ex After Cheating

At first, the possibility of getting back with your ex after cheating may seem to be a big fat zero. But life after cheating is soon more complex than this.

For instance, if your ex cheated you may be less certain about never giving your cheating ex a second chance. Faced with softer, more forgiving feelings and a cheating ex who desperately wants you back, what should you do?

If you cheated on your ex, finding sympathetic advice can be difficult too. After all, you’re the “villain.” But you would do anything to turn back the clock – to get a second chance. The question is, how?

Our articles below focus on getting back with an ex after cheating – on giving and getting a second chance. You may find it helpful to read both sides of the story, to help you understand what your ex is going through.

If YOUR EX cheated …

Getting Back With a Cheating Ex - Get Balanced Advice
Why hard-line advice about getting back together with a cheating ex is not necessarily helpful and needs to be balanced by other views.

Should You Give a Cheating Ex a Second Chance?
Practical advice to help you decide if you should give your cheating ex a second chance or not.

If YOU cheated …

Can I Get My Ex Back After Cheating?
Your chances of getting a second chance and getting your ex back after cheating may not be as poor as you think.

How to Get Your Ex Back After You Cheated
Know how to get your ex back after you cheated - ten essential tips for getting an ex back after cheating.

Excuses Will Not Win Your Ex Back After Cheating
Why excuses are a poor strategy for getting back with your ex after cheating.

More advice on getting an ex back after cheating…

The process of getting an ex back after cheating is more challenging. To speed it up and make sure you do everything right (especially important after cheating) we highly recommend you check out complete step-by-step plans for getting an ex back. They will provide you with all the help you need to avoid mistakes and stay on track to getting your ex back.

See Books on How to Get Your Ex Back for more information, including our top picks.